NOW I KNOW
012 29 December 2016
We are all here to live every situation you can imagine, good or bad; right or wrong; positive or negative. Why? So we can learn from the experience as part of the adventure of life. Murray Kibblewhite
CASE STUDY – THE PAIN OF INFLEXIBILITY
I visit my friend who trained as a Doctor in Pharmacology at least once a week. He originally came from China over 25 years ago and has been retired from full-time work for about 10 years.
Since late 2014 he has been suffering eye problems. It started with AMD (Aging Macular Degeneration) and then his specialist decided to remove a cataract from his right eye. Normally only 4% of people having this operation have difficulties. Unfortunately, my friend suffered an artery break during the operation causing him to become blind in this eye.
However, the health authorities would not admit to their mistake. So now, some three years later after many eyes, injections to stall the AMD he is blind in his right eye and cannot read from his left. He, with my assistance, is laying a complaint against the Local Health Board.
As an intellectual, his whole life has revolved around reading and study. Now, with the loss of his sight his whole world has changed and he has become bitter, blaming and frustrated. In the past few month, on top of the painful side-effects of the monthly injections, he has developed a stiffness in his neck which makes it difficult to move physically.
I checked the writings of Annette Noontil in her amazing book, “The Body is the Barometer of the Soul so be Your Own Doctor.” Under “Neck Stiffness” I read that the possible cause could be:-
“You are judging others and yourself and not changing to a live and let live attitude because you are inflexible and not in your feelings.”
Spot on! Exactly my friend’s situation.
So, have I explained this to him? Yes, I tried to, but he would not let me read the above passage because “he is a scientist and does not accept non-scientific material”. An unfortunate example of his inflexibility!
So here is a case where you can take a horse to water but can’t make it drink!
Learnings– So what does a person learn from being inflexible? Is it the experience of having a strength of character or being strong holding onto beliefs through personal suffering? However, being inflexible gives a person the opportunity to change their views and release the pain and anguish they are going through! But how long does a person hold to their miss-guided beliefs before they look for a better way?
And what have I learned? Possibly, understanding but more likely compassion and detachment. While I feel sorry for my friend, I see his problem as his lesson to be learned and I give help but I don’t become emotionally involved.
All life’s experiences are opportunities to learn. The challenge is to decide, what are the real lessons to be learned?