010                                                                                                                23 December 2016


We are all here to live every situation you can imagine, good or bad; right or wrong; positive or negative. Why? So we can learn from the experience as part of the adventure of life.  Murray Kibblewhite


According to Louise Hay, in her book “You Can Heal Your Life”, the fundament addiction of most people is the feeling off and continuing to act in an unworthy manner.

This fundamental addiction gives rise to other addictions – drugs, alcohol, and violence.

When I asked several specialists is it possible to prevent addictions to drugs, alcohol and violence the same answer was- “No. The person has to hit the bottom before they gain the courage to change their lifestyle.”

How does a person know their sense of unworthiness?

Maybe some methods could include, the observations by third parties, the results of regular checks such as blood test or a self-check using an App.

For example when a person has completed a “detox” their regular follow-up support program could reveal any symptoms of reversal.

But this does help a person before they have their crisis?

How does a person overcome their sense of unworthiness?

Once they have accepted they have an addiction and want to improve, then a change in thinking is required. For example, use some form of meditation, soul expansion techniques (Christine Marie Sheldon) or yoga and exercise together with regular repetitions of affirmations.

There are many programs for self-improvement that can be suited for a person who is prepared to make the change.

But this does not help a person before they have their crisis!

How can a person prevent feeling unworthy?

Proper parenting is required for young people up until when they are seven (7) years of age to ensure children are loved, feel confident and are supported by an older person.

This is the crucial test – how are young children being parented?

But while young children can be observed in play centers, what about their circumstances when they are in their homes?


Addiction is formed early in a person’s life and usually comes out later under some form of stress. While some say addiction is gene based it could and is probably a continuation of lifestyle and cultural practices which have deep-rooted acceptance based upon family examples.

Learnings– So what does a person learn from having an addiction? Is it the experience of being out of control, or the pleasure of having high or feeling powerful? Maybe the learning is self-discipline, or self-forgiveness, or self–worth? You decide!

All life’s experiences are opportunities to learn. The challenge is to decide, what are the real lessons to be learned?

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  1. Question: My boyfriend is a gambler. Maybe gambling is an addiction that starts after childhood but in his case he has seen his parents suffer through this addiction. What can I do to help him overcome his addiction? KK (name)
    Answer from Murray Kibblewhite:
    Ask your boyfriend, ‘What he is learning from his gambling?’
    Regardless of his answer ask again, “Is the risk of losing your money, losing your home and losing me, greater than the pleasure you get out of gambling?”
    Finally, give him a choice such as, “What about reducing the time you spend gambling or switch from gambling to investing or both?”


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