013                                                                                                              05 January 2017


We are all here to live every situation you can imagine, good or bad; right or wrong; positive or negative. Why? So we can learn from the experience as part of the adventure of life.  Murray Kibblewhite

STORY – YEAR 23 – Avoiding Marriage

At his Business School, Michael was introduced to a new student, Priya, from Northern India. Upon inquiry, Michael discovered Priya had been in New Zealand for over two years living in Invercargill, the southernmost city in the world. “It’s the most wonderful place I have ever lived,” Priya gushed.

After Priya had left Michael mused on why she was so happy at the bottom of New Zealand, almost half a world away from her home?  During lunch with another female teacher from India she suggested that Priya may be escaping a “forced marriage.”

Later the Indian teacher explained the term “Misogyny”, the hatred or dislike of woman and girls that are part of the India culture where there is an exceptionally high level of abortions of female fetuses. The teacher further explained that girls suffer for the sake of their brothers, so much so, that eventually a girl becomes the “property” of her husband and in-laws.

About a year later Michael met Priya in the corridor of the school having not seen her for some time after she had finished his class. Replying to his question she responded happily, “I’m very happy as I’ve received an extension to my visa for further studies.”

Realizing that she had again been able to delay her marriage, Michael smiled as he responded, “Maybe, to avoid an arranged marriage, you could find a man in New Zealand to get married to?”

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Learnings– Priya learned that to avoid a crisis and resulting pain was either remove herself from the danger area or make other plans or do both. She was doing both.

Michael learned not to judge others until he knew the full story.

All life’s experiences are opportunities to learn. The challenge is to decide, what are the real lessons to be learned?


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