NOW I KNOW
We are all here to live every situation we can imagine, good or bad; right or wrong; positive or negative. Why? So we can learn from the experience as part of the adventure of life. Murray Kibblewhite
CASE STUDY – WHY WE NEED TO GIVE UP BEING JUDGEMENTAL?
The fridge/freezer stopped working on Friday and I did not realize it until Saturday. So I bought some ice and mixed it with items from the freezer in an insulated container until the unit was repaired or replaced.
My Chinese lady flatmate and I decided to see if we could get a new fridge/freezer as the present one was very old. However, after many phone calls to local retailers we could not find a suitable replacement. Why? Because the opening in the kitchen for the fridge/freezer was not high enough. Or, modern fridge/freezers are now built to larger dimensions. So by Saturday evening it looked like we would have to get our small old unit repaired!
But Sunday was a new day and my flatmate who had searched the Internet found a Chinese retail store that stocked an unknown (to me) brand of fridge/freezer that would fit into the hole, was a demonstration unit which they were prepared to deliver to us at a low price. Excellent news.
I left the organisation of delivery on Sunday to my flatmate. Mid afternoon, after 3.00 pm when the store had closed she told me she had paid for the fridge/freezer and delivery would be later in the day about 7.00 or 8.00 pm. Then the drama started!
From 4.00 pm onwards my Chinese flatmate began to have doubts as to whether the sale was legal or was it a scam? After some searching on the Internet she found the store and she rang them to check. But no reply because the store had closed. Then she became even more anxious as she did not have a contact number for the driver of the delivery van. So she rang the store again. No reply so she left a text message, Now she started telling me of how in China there is a popular scam of people receiving money which they never repay
So by 6.30 pm my flatmate was convinced she had been scammed and had rung her bank to see if the payment could be stopped. This was not possible. Her final action was to lodge a complaint with the police. All the while I was trying to calm her as my pendulum had answered my question that the fridge/freezer would be delivered that night. And I was not looking forward to explaining to the police my flatmate’s concerns. So it was very tense in our apartment
Break-through at 7.30 pm. My flatmate received a call from the driver of the delivery van apologising for the delay and no contact. It seems his mobile battery had run down so he had not been able to update us. So by 8.12 pm the new fridge/freezer had been installed and was working!
So what is the learning here?
In “The Tenth Insight” page 185 it says “Have you ever noticed that when you are afraid, you tend to jump to conclusions?”
Judging and pre-judging are easy to do as you are comparing two or more things in your imagination.
While my flatmate admitted she had made a “false claim” against the shop and driver, the real issue was jumping to conclusions based upon “false judgement”.
All life’s experiences are opportunities to learn. The challenge is to decide, what is the real lesson to be learnt?
How to use:-
1) Accept you need to change your Attitude and Actions on a daily basis.
2) Read, view, discuss and learn other ways. Set time aside daily to study.
3) Practice a new action until it becomes a better habit. Then discuss with your friends.
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