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065                                                                                                          10/07/2017

MY KNOWING

We are all here to live every situation you can imagine, good or bad; right or wrong; positive or negative. Why? So we can learn from the experience as part of the adventure of life.  Murray Kibblewhite

CASE STUDY – HOW TO APPRECIATE WHAT YOU HAVE SUBJECT : Beliefs

It is 3,32am and I am laying in my bed awake after a toilet stop. Clearly and close by I can hear the “Or Pork” call of the Morpork bird calling to another. After a series of calls he stopped and I hear the quiet reply from another in the distance.

Yesterday, was a magic Spring day, clear fine and warm in the sun. Perfect weather. And as I  laid in my bed early in the morning, I listened to the various birds in the “Dawn Chorus”, thrushes, blackbirds, grey warbler.tui’s and more. All calling – telling the world they are awake and ready.

The apartment I live in is well-sited to receive the sun all day. The lounge where I work is always warm and has little need for a heater during winter.

Out the window to the East I look directly into the branches of the attractive “Bottle Brush” tree with its many red flowers of circular shape.

Then on the West side of the apartment I look intoa group of magnificent “Magnolia” trees with their large shinny leaves, green on top and bronze underneath with beautiful large creamy- white flowers on display most of the year.

Finally, on another morning as I lay in my bed just before I prepared to get up and just before the sound of the nearby traffic drown out the natural sounds, I could hear many cows mooing. It is an unusual experience to hear farm animals in a large city. Later that day, I walked through nearby Cornwall Park, in the centre of Auckland, and I could clearly see a large number of cows and their calves, the source of the sounds I had heard earlier.

All the sounds of nature are there to hear, if you only listen.

Magic

Learnings

So what was thelearning?

We all must learn to appreciate what we have.

All life’s experiences are opportunities to learn. The challenge is to decide, what is the real lesson to be learnt?

How to use:-

1) Accept you need to change your Attitude and Actions on a daily basis.

2) Read, view, discuss and learn other ways. Set time aside daily to study.

3) Practice a new action until it becomes a better habit. Then tell your friends.

Check out these links:-

Dawn Chorus New Zealand – www.youtube.com/watch?v=RnHmWFlyK8E

Bottle Brush Treewww.burkesbackyard.com.au/fact-sheets/in-the-garden/flowering-plants-shrubs/bottlebrush/

Magnolia Tree – www.123rf.com/photo_10251157_two-white-magnolia-blossoms-on-a-magnolia-tree-in-sunshine.html

 

 

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064                                                                                                                      10/02/2017

MY KNOWING

We are all here to live every situation you can imagine, good or bad; right or wrong; positive or negative. Why? So we can learn from the experience as part of the adventure of life.  Murray Kibblewhite

CASE STUDY – SO, WHAT ABOUT ISLAM?SUBJECT : Beliefs

Is there a similarity between being a Moslem and a Yoga student?

The answer to this question arose today after attending my Yoga class. I had invited a young male business associate to join me at my weekly Yoga class. He wanted to gain the feeling of cleanliness and relaxation which I felt.

After surviving the seemingly impossible, sometimes complicated and often painful postures, we decided to celebrate over a coffee, the clear, clean and composed feelings that result from Yoga.

Did the talk help?

Yes it did, as we had a meaningful conversation on a number of subjects. My young friend had some interesting insights into the Islam faith. He explained he had been born in Libya from Iraq parents who some 20 years before had immigrated to New Zealand. He was only 4 when he arrived so he talked like a Kiwi.

He made an interesting observation when he compared several of the Yoga poses to the prayer positions of a Moslem. In Yoga the posture of kneeling and bowing, as shown in the picture above, is very similar to that of prayer used by a Moslem.

Do you think that sounds right?

As well, a Yoga adept had to adopt a relaxed and mindful attitude. Then he observered that Moslem’s pray to Allah five times per day as well as practice fasting during Ramadan. In his eyes, these practices meant Moslems gained self-discipline .I agreed with him and added that Moslem’s do not recognise interest, so money-lending for them was far less onerous that that practised by non-Moslem’s

Finally, he said that while he did not follow Islam, he felt their belief system had much to offer.

Learnings

So what had I learnt?

I learned to be aware of other belief systems and not judge them on the actions of violent extremists.

I also learned that both Yoga and Islam, have much to offer.

All life’s experiences are opportunities to learn. The challenge is to decide, what is the real lesson to be learnt?

How to use:-

1) Accept you need to change your Attitude and Actions on a daily basis.

2) Read, view, discuss and learn other ways. Set time aside daily to study.

3) Practice a new action until it becomes a better habit. Then tell your friends.

Check out these links:-

For Islam – www.youtube.com/watch?v=hzRmpPGEb6Q

For Yoga – www.youtube.com/watch?v=i9zIz9RsUjI

 

 

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063                                                                                                                 09-21-2017

MY KNOWING

We are all here to live every situation you can imagine, good or bad; right or wrong; positive or negative. Why? So we can learn from the experience as part of the adventure of life.  Murray Kibblewhite

CASE STUDY – WHY DO OPPOSITES ATTRACT?SUBJECT:Relationships

If opposites attract then how can you live with the differences?

Recently my assistant who helps with my Social Media activities told me she had had a serious argument with her boyfriend. She became so angry she threw her mobile phone at him! The phone was damaged and needed to be repaired making it an expensive disagreement.

Then she looked at me and asked, “What shall I do?”

I then recalled, to myself, the many relationships I have had and how there were times of disagreement. Why? Aloud I told her that most relationships are formed by people who are opposite giving rise to the saying. “Opposites attract.”

To her I asked, “Why is this so? Why do opposites attract?” She was silent thinking but did not give an answer.

So I started my explanation based upon what I could remember from the “Human Zoo” by Desmond Morris. Male and females in most species go through a pair-forming bonding ritual to prepare for procreation. The primary reason for becoming a “couple” is to create a family. So pair-forming is between two opposites – a man and a woman.

But what about opposite personalities being attracted? My answer is that opposites attract so together they form a balanced unit

Do you think that sounds right?

For example my son, who suffers from dyslexia, had difficulty completing secondary school because of his difficulty in reading and comprehension. However, he now has an excellent job as a Marketing Manager that his outgoing personality suits. His job includes travelling overseas every few months to develop sales and meet up with prospects and existing clients.

He is also happily married with a wonderful wife and two teen age children. However, she is a quiet introverted person who has a University degree and an IQ rating that is almost off the scale and she home schools the children. Completely opposite, but together an amazing wonderful family unit.

Learnings

So what has she learnt?

She now knows that her future partner will be very different to her so they can have a balanced life. This means that both of them have to learn to live with the other’s differencesbecause together they are a balanced unit.

All life’s experiences are opportunities to learn. The challenge is to decide, what is the real lesson to be learnt?

How to use:-

1) Accept you need to change your Attitude and Actions on a daily basis.

2) Read, view, discuss and learn other ways. Set time aside daily to study.

3) Practice a new action until it becomes a better habit. Then tell your friends.

Check out these links:-

To the blog:  – https://projectlel.wordpress.com/2016/12/04/3313/

For women – www.youtube.com/watch?v=wSGpC-g-XxI

For men – www.youtube.com/watch?v=wSGpC-g-XxI

 

 

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062                                                                                                              09-19-2017

MY KNOWING

We are all here to live every situation you can imagine, good or bad; right or wrong; positive or negative. Why? So we can learn from the experience as part of the adventure of life.  Murray Kibblewhite

CASE STUDY – ONE WAY TO GET COURAGE

“No one knows you when you are down and out”, sings Eric Clapton.

Yes, and one way to gain courage is to become unemployed. The effort to wade through the muddy waters of government regulations and documentation here in New Zealand is beyond belief.

In the New Zealand Herald dated 8 September 2017 Simon Collins in his article, “Toxic culture at WINZ must go: Beneficiaries” says:-

“Advocacy group Auckland Action Against Poverty has produced a video giving beneficiaries a voice on issues which have been largely ignoredby both major [political parties in the election campaign so far.

The beneficiaries say WINZ is “coercing” them into precarious jobs which don’t allow them to look after their children, nor pay high-enough wages to lift them out of poverty.”

This attitude of staff working in the government department, WINZ (Work and Income New Zealand) was confirmed today by one of my ex-clients. She advised that during her divorce she was fighting legal custody battle for the right to be responsible for her nine year old daughter, she was also being forced into work that was not suited to her.

As Collins says further in his article:-

“Beneficiaries on the video describe the attitude of WINZ towards them as “toxic, “very cold” and “humiliating.”

‘You are made to feel like scum,’ a solo parent said.”

My ex-clientconfirmed these view but is pleased that re-organising her life shehas now been able to go into business on her own and so is now not dealing with WINZ.

”It felt like a huge weight had been taken off my shoulders,” she said.

Learnings

So what has she learnt?

Through her experience of the “school of hard knocks” she has learnt to have the courage to persist in what she wanted and the strength to persevere.

Remember, the bigger the pain the more important is the lesson to be learnt!

All life’s experiences are opportunities to learn. The challenge is to decide, what is the real lesson to be learnt?

How to use:-

1) Accept you need to change your Attitude and Actions on a daily basis.

2) Read, view, discuss and learn other ways. Set time aside daily to study.

3) Practice a new action until it becomes a better habit. Then tell your friends.

Check out these links:-

For women – www.youtube.com/watch?v=j5n_WeAlpd4

For men – www.youtube.com/watch?v=NrCGP_3HpLU

 

 

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061                                                                                                             09-17-2017

MY KNOWING

We are all here to live every situation you can imagine, good or bad; right or wrong; positive or negative. Why? So we can learn from the experience as part of the adventure of life.  Murray Kibblewhite

CASE STUDY – WHAT AGING DEPENDS ON!

Deepak Chopra in his book, “Ageless Body, Timeless Mind” page 292 says: –

Throughout this book, I’ve argued that how you age depends on how you metabolize your experience.”

In place of “how you metabolize your experience “ I suggest using, ‘ how you learn from your experience.’ This change emphasises the need to treat every experience as a learning experience, rather than a “judgement opportunity.”

In our materialistic duality world most judge every experience as good or bad, positive or negative and helping or hindering. Whereas, choosing to consider each experience as a learning opportunity, as Chopra says,

 “And in the final analysis, how you metabolize time is the most important aspect of this process, because time is the most fundamental experience.

Further on he says,

“It’s possible to have actual experiences of timelessness, and when that happens, there is a shift from time-bound awareness to timeless awareness.”

On page 293 Chopra explains a definition of timeless awareness by a number of examples including: –

  • Internal goals(happiness ;self-acceptance; creativity; satisfaction that one is doing one’s best at all times)
  • Little thought of self-image; action focussed on the present moment
  • Detachment from change and turmoil; no fear of death
  • Selflessness; altruism; sense of shared humanity (typical motivation: “Can I help?”)

What do you choose?

Learnings

There are at least two ways to live – time bound or timeless awareness.

If a person wants the benefits of timeless awareness then have to learn new habits

All life’s experiences are opportunities to learn. The challenge is to decide, what are the real lessons to be learnt?

How to use:-

1) Accept you need to change your Attitude and Actions on a daily basis.

2) Read, view, discuss and learn other ways. Set time aside daily to study.

3) Practice a new action until it becomes a better habit. Then tell your friends.

Check out these links:-

To the blog:  –https://projectlel.wordpress.com/2016/12/04/3313/

For women – www.youtube.com/watch?v=-SEQglwMhJs

For men – www.youtube.com/watch?v=MPdNFtmR8NM

 

 

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060                                                                                                          09-14-2017

MY KNOWING

We are all here to live every situation you can imagine, good or bad; right or wrong; positive or negative. Why? So we can learn from the experience as part of the adventure of life.  Murray Kibblewhite

CASE STUDY – AGE IS NO BARRIER. SO ACT. DON’T SIT!

One of my smart female clients is proposing to provide in house services combing her skills, qualifications and experience. She is to cook meals for older people who have special dietary needs as well as provide companionship assistance.

Yes, her services will be targeted to the wealthy who can afford to have in-home care and attention.

After proving the acceptance of her services she plans to expand into setting up a commercial kitchen where she would cook meals to meet the specific needs of her clients. Suitably trained volunteers would deliver the meals and provide companionship for the clients.

Her proposed service raised some issues in my mind of the need to retire and the income earning possibilities for older people!

Areport, “The Business of Aging” prepared by the  Ministry of Social Development – Office for Senior Citizens published January 2011 and in the Executive Summary says: –

“The challenges of funding the health care and pension needs arising from this demographic shift are well-documented[1], but what do we know about the economic opportunities? Is there another side to the story: will baby boomers redefine what it means to turn 65 and cast aside the concept of retirement, choosing instead to blend work and leisureinto their late 60s and even 70s? Baby boomers have redefined every life stage they have passed through – why shouldn’t this continue past the age of 65?

As a “baby boomer” myself I agree with the statement: –

“… cast aside the concept of retirement choosing instead to blend work and leisure …”

I can see the present political“system” here in New Zealand would accept this new concept, as it would cost less.

But will all senior citizens grasp this opportunity? Will they be prepared to learn again?

Learnings

The changes required by older people needs a re-learning and application of new concepts.

Now, people over the retirement age, have the opportunity re-learn and re-apply their skills and experience to give them an exciting time ahead as they age!

All life’s experiences are opportunities to learn. The challenge is to decide, what are the real lessons to be learnt?

 

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058                                                                                                      09-11-2017

MY KNOWING

We are all here to live every situation you can imagine, good or bad; right or wrong; positive or negative. Why? So we can learn from the experience as part of the adventure of life.  Murray Kibblewhite

CASE STUDY – HOW TO LEARN TO BE IN LOVE?

How do you start the process of “falling in love?”

Rollo May in his book “Man’s Search for Himself” page 239 says: –

“Most human relationships, of course, spring from a mixture of motives and include a combination of different feelings. … a blend of two emotions. One is ‘eros’ – the sexual drive toward the other. … The other element in mature love between man and woman is the affirmation of the value and worth of the other person”

So two emotions – physical desire and similar values. But are they both treated equally?

Further on page 243, he points out the issue: –

“Love, as we have said, is generally confused with dependence; but in point of fact,you can love only in proportion to your capacity for independence.”

So now we are considering the practical issues instead of just the emotional demands.

On the next page May says:-

“… many parents expect that the child love them as a repayment for their taking care of him”

This is typical of Asian families. I remember in one of my classes when I asked the question, “Who is the most important person in your life?” expecting to hear, “Me!” But one Chinese girl screamed at me – “My Mother. My Mother.”

On page 245 he continues:-

“And our capacity to lovedepends, In turn,upon our prior capacityto be personsin our own right. To love means,essentially, to give; and it requires a maturity of self-feeling.”

Finally, Deepak Chopra in his book “Ageless Body Timeless Mind” page 332 says: –

“Ultimately, all love comes from within. We are deluding ourselves when we believe that another person is who we love; the other person is a pretext by which we give ourselves permission to feel love.”

Learnings

Rollo May on page 246 says:-

“Learning to love will proceed most soundly if we cease trying to persuade ourselves that to love is easy, and if we are realistic enough to abandon the illusory masquerades from love in a society which is always talking about love but has so little of it.”

We must learn to understand the difference between love and lust.

All life’s experiences are opportunities to learn. The challenge is to decide, what are the real lessons to be learnt?

 

 

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057                                                                                                               09-06-2017

MY KNOWING

We are all here to live every situation you can imagine, good or bad; right or wrong; positive or negative. Why? So we can learn from the experience as part of the adventure of life.  Murray Kibblewhite

CASE STUDY – WHAT TO LEARN?

“The most valuable things in life are not measured in monetary terms. The really important are not houses and lands, stocks and bonds, automobiles and real estate, but friendships, trust, confidence, empathy, mercy, love, and faith.” These words were penned by Bertrand Russell 1872 – 1970, Philosopher and Writer.

I once compared the aims of what we humans are experiencing to gain in each of our incarnations on Earth. David Stone had 28 while Anette Nootil had 18.

In my eyes the 18 most important are:-1

  JOSHUA DAVID STONE ANNETTE NOONTIL
  Spiritual Centred Self Qualities we came to learn
1 Balance Balance
2 Unity Beinginess
3 Compassion Compassion
4 Even-Minded Consideration
5 Mastery Creativity
6 Non-Judgemental Detached
7 Discipline Determination
8 Preference Discernment
9 Happiness Enjoyment
10 Self-Love Flexibility
11 Choice Freedom
12 Unconditional Love Fulfilment
13 Surrender Giving
14 Humility Humility
15 Co-Operation Loyalty
16 Oneness One with All
17 Patience Patience
18 Decisiveness Responsibility

 

So, we all are born on Earth so we can choose the experience we want to learn.

Remember, where there is the greatest difficulty and pain is also the greatest learning. You will have read of people who ae suffering physically but who have amazing compassion and understanding for others.It is astonishing that through their suffering they can remain positive and inspirational.

Like the power lifter, start with small weights and then as you gradually increase the mass you become stronger so in turn you are able to lift greater amounts.

Learnings

We all must learn to accept our situation and realise that we are here to learn.

So what are we learning? Use the pain or difficulty to direct you to the area of your life that needs to change. Then, with courage and fortitude, and hopefully with the support of your partner, family and friends, make the changes. Start small and progressively increase the new practice and watch the new improved you appear!

All life’s experiences are opportunities to learn. The challenge is to decide, what are the real lessons to be learnt?

 

 

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056                                                                                                            01-09-2017

MY KNOWING

We are all here to live every situation you can imagine, good or bad; right or wrong; positive or negative. Why? So we can learn from the experience as part of the adventure of life.  Murray Kibblewhite

CASE STUDY – WHY BE CAREFUL WHAT YOU THINK?

In the book “Vision Tomorrow” by Edmund Harold page 150, he writes:-

“Whatever you think you create. If your thoughts are upon ‘light encircling the planet’, then that is what you are setting in motion.”

An important part of the learning process, as my previous articles have illustrated, is to stop judging, stop considering thoughts as right or wrong, good or bad or positive or negative

On the next page, the author submits: –

“The majority of the problems which face the races, the suffering which is influenced by greedy opportunists, all could be eliminated if Man could be taught the power of thought.”

Therefore, in my opinion, if ‘poor people’ were able to  rely on a minimum income level, now days called Universal Basic Income, then their thoughts could be on getting a job rather than just trying to find food, shelter and protection.

Yes, some will say, ‘poor people’ should work harder but that assumes they have a job or are able to work as distinct from wanting to work!

Another example are ‘start-up businesses’. Usually based upon the idea or thoughts of one person, it is important for them to obtain capital to bring the idea to market. The idea or thought has to be expressed in a Business Plan, so it can be c conveyed effectively to potential investors.

In both cases, the importance of having the right idea or thought is critical to the success of getting a job or getting an investor.

Learnings

We all must learn to change our thoughts so we can create new ideas and opportunities to start and grow.

All life’s experiences are opportunities to learn. The challenge is to decide, what are the real lessons to be learnt?

Link to the blog:

 

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055                                                                                                               08-29-2017

MY KNOWING

We are all here to live every situation you can imagine, good or bad; right or wrong; positive or negative. Why? So we can learn from the experience as part of the adventure of life.  Murray Kibblewhite

CASE STUDY – HOW TO MAKE A DECISION?

Yesterday I had coffee with a female friend. She was in a state of unsureness as she had three major decisions to make. In anticipation of the discussion I brought my copy of the “I Ching”, the Chinese book for telling the future.

You frame an open ended question like, “What effect will moving to Auckland, New Zealand, have on my career?” Then you take three coins and shake them in your cupped hands while saying the question in your mind. Then you let the coins fall on the table and from the four possible displays, you place a line or two dashes on the page. You do this procedure six times placing the lines and dashes above each other to build up a hexagram.

Then you turn to the page in the I Ching book showing the hexagram and read the extensive description that relates to you. Sometimes you can make two hexagrams from the same question – the first is your present situation and the second hexagram is your possible future situation.

In the case of my friend the first reading was “Discontentment” while the second reading was “Resolution”.This seemed to favour her making the decision to change. She took the book home to seek answers to other questions. The next morning she advised by e-mail: –

“By the way I did the test last night and the book told me all the answers as towards a perfect life ahead!

With the practise I got to realise something about myself yesterday at the cafe!

Many thanks. I shall be doing it again soon:’

Finally, the second part of the decision making process is realising that something greater than you comes into play to help make it happen. Rollo May, in his book, “Man’s Search for Himself” page 220, says that once the decision is made: –

“He finally makes the decision to leave, and his dreams suddenlybecome strongly on the positive side, as if the conscious decision releases some “unconscious” power likewise.”

Learnings

Decision making can be very difficult

Learn to check the facts, ask others for their advice, use devices or systems like Runes use a Pendulum or I Ching to guide you. Go with your feelings.

Learn also, to expect the Universe to release some power to support your decision.

All life’s experiences are opportunities to learn. The challenge is to decide, what are the real lessons to be learnt?