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086                                                                                                                     02-11-2018

MY KNOWING

We are all here to live every situation you can imagine, good or bad; right or wrong; positive or negative. Why? So we can learn from the experience as part of the adventure of life.  Murray Kibblewhite

CASE STUDY –HOW TO HAVE AN IDEAL RELATIONSHIP? SUBJECT: RELATIONSHIPS

“The Celestine Prophecy” by James Redfield pages 194 – 195 discusses the classic co-dependency relationship when it says: –

“He said that until we learn how to avoid this situation, we are walking around like a circle half complete. You know, we look like the letter C. We are very susceptible to a person of the opposite sex, some other circle half complete, coming up and joining with us – completing the circle that way – and giving us a burst of euphoria and energy that feels like the wholeness that a full connection with the Universe produces. In reality, we have only joined up with another person who is looking for their other half on the outside too.”

Further on he says: –

“This kind of illusion of completeness always breaks down into a power struggle.”

And in answer to the question “Can we still have romance?” he says: –

“Oh, we can still have romance, but first we have to complete the circle on our own. We have to stabilize our channel to the Universe.”

So how can we have an ideal relationship?

“By resisting the ‘love at first sight’ feeling for a while, by:  –

  • learning to have platonic relationships with members of the opposite sex;
  • have relationships only with people who reveal themselves, and
  • Understand who these opposite sexed friends really are on the inside to break down one’s own fantasy projection about that gender so that releases us to connect again with the Universe.”

 

Learning

So what was the learning?

We all have to learn to love ourselves first.

Then we have to learn to be patient and have a platonic relationship second.

Finally we have to understand our opposite sexed friends from the inside, which takes time.

All life’s experiences are opportunities to learn. The challenge is to decide, what is the real lesson to be learnt?

How to use:-

1) Accept you need to change your Attitude and Actions on a daily basis.

2) Read, view, discuss and learn other ways. Set time aside daily to study.

3) Practice a new action until it becomes a better habit. Then tell your friends.

Check out these links:-

To the blog:  –https://projectlel.wordpress.com/

CO-DEPENDENCY –http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oh7JRgYZK2k

PLATONIC RELATIONSHIPS-www.youtube.com/watch?v=lTi8I7GJvWo

 

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085                                                                                                               02-01-2018

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We are all here to live every situation you can imagine, good or bad; right or wrong; positive or negative. Why? So we can learn from the experience as part of the adventure of life.  Murray Kibblewhite

CASE STUDY –WHAT IS YOUR STORY? SUBJECT BELIEFS

In his book “Homo Deus” Yuval Noah Hariari on page 353 says: –

“We see then that the self too is an imaginary story, just like nations, gods and money. Each of us has a sophisticated system that throws away most of our experiences, keeps only a few choice samples, mixes them up with bits from movies we have seen, novels we’ve read, speeches we’ve heard, and day dreams we’ve savoured, and out of all of that jumble weaves a seemingly coherent story about who I am, where I came from and where I am going. “

And further on:-

“Some people live a tragedy, others inhabit a never-ending religious drama, and some approach life as if it were an action film and not a few acts as if as in a comedy. But in the end, they are all just stories.”

In my opinion theses “stories” are learning experiences we chose when we come into this incarnation.

Then on page 355 Hariari asks:-

“We are about to face a flood of extremely useful devices, tools and structures that make no allowance for the free will of individual humans. Will democracy, the free market and human rights survive this flood?”

In other words, is technology going to take us over?

Learning

So what was the learning?

We all have to learn to accept what we have

Or

Realise our beliefs are obsolete and learn to live with new technology?

All life’s experiences are opportunities to learn. The challenge is to decide, what is the real lesson to be learnt?

How to use:-

1) Accept you need to change your Attitude and Actions on a daily basis.

2) Read, view, discuss and learn other ways. Set time aside daily to study.

3) Practice a new action until it becomes a better habit. Then tell your friends.

Check out these links:-

To the blog:  –https://projectlel.wordpress.com/

MY STORY –www.youtube.com/watch?v=2azx-L1tl0o

TECHNOLOGYwww.youtube.com/watch?v=bUV5CqMmxBA

 

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084                                                                                                                    02-01-2018

MY KNOWING

We are all here to live every situation you can imagine, good or bad; right or wrong; positive or negative. Why? So we can learn from the experience as part of the adventure of life.  Murray Kibblewhite

CASE STUDY –WHY IT IS IMPORTANT TO SHARE SUBJECT CAREER

Yesterday I had lunch with some old friends, C and his wife S. It was sixteen (16) years ago when they first came to NZ from Singapore.

Wonderful

We swapped stories of what we had done in the past twelve (12) months. All of us in our own ways had been inventive and entrepreneurial.

As well as continuing with production of her range of skin care products, S had developed a new snack product that was very healthy as it was full of seeds and nuts and was attractively packaged.

C had helped her as well as becoming the sole Australasian representative for a Singaporean printing equipment manufacturer and print supplier. He also passed on to me some valuable tips on how to negotiate with Chinese businessmen.

In turn, I outlined the further developments and refinements I had made to my App and the fundamental lessons I was teaching to the owners of small start-ups.

Then we discussed various alternatives for marketing both the skin care and snack food products and agreed they needed to license or partner with another established larger NZ manufacturer so as to be able to scale up to commercial production.

In the afternoon over coffee we took some selfies, one of which is shown above.

Later that evening we exchanged texts and C sent the quotation below:-

“The best feeling in the whole world is watching things finally fall into place,

After watching they fall apart for so long.”

I am hopeful to enjoy this feeling in 2018!

 

Learning

So what was the learning?

Good things, like good wine, need time to mature,

I learnt to continue being patient and enjoy the journey rather than force desired results.

All life’s experiences are opportunities to learn. The challenge is to decide, what is the real lesson to be learnt?

How to use:-

1) Accept you need to change your Attitude and Actions on a daily basis.

2) Read, view, discuss and learn other ways. Set time aside daily to study.

3) Practice a new action until it becomes a better habit. Then tell your friends.

Check out these links:-

To the blog:  –https://projectlel.wordpress.com/

SHARING –www.youtube.com/watch?v=wODg1AKuRc8

ENJOY THE JOURNEYwww.youtube.com/watch?v=-kfLc1KSewY

 

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083                                                                                                           01-04-2017

MY KNOWING

We are all here to live every situation you can imagine, good or bad; right or wrong; positive or negative. Why? So we can learn from the experience as part of the adventure of life.  Murray Kibblewhite

CASE STUDY –HOW I LEARNT TO SEE THE WAY SUBJECT: BELIEFS

The Saturday before Christmas here in New Zealand 2017 was an epiphany day when several events happened that showed me the way to follow.

First, at yoga, the class starts at 8.00am each Saturday, and we were in the last meditation. I was lying on my mat on the floor with my eyes closed, recovering from a series of exercises when the blackness was replaced by a white light, I felt lighter and my right arm began lifting from floor without any effort on my part!

Was this the start of levitation?

Unfortunately, this unique event was cut short by the teacher telling us to change position for the next posture. Was this a sign that my spiritual practices were growing?

Secondly, that afternoon at the wedding of one of my Korean ex-students, I was overcome by the power of words of the Pastor so much that I cried, unable to explain why I was so affected by this simple but moving ceremony. Was this a sign that there was something or some person who could join with me to improve on my present single situation? Was this a sign I would soon find another partner?

The third event was also at the wedding. The Pastor used a powerful analogy of a three strand rope being unbreakable as compared to a double or single strand. As he eloquently explained, referring to Ecclesiastes3/12:-

“And if one prevails against him, two will withstand him; and a threefold cord is not quickly broken.”

Was this a further sign that my future partner or I, would have a strong connection to God?

 Learning

So what was the learning?

It is said that God moves in mysterious ways so we have to respect and understand every event, situation and personas bringing you a message.

That day I learnt of new changes coming my way.

All life’s experiences are opportunities to learn. The challenge is to decide, what is the real lesson to be learnt?

How to use:-

1) Accept you need to change your Attitude and Actions on a daily basis.

2) Read, view, discuss and learn other ways. Set time aside daily to study.

3) Practice a new action until it becomes a better habit. Then tell your friends.

Check out these links:-

To the blog:  –https://projectlel.wordpress.com/

LEVITATION – http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BTbO4l-YgS0

EPIPHANY -www.youtube.com/watch?v=YT1QEzBLR4k

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082                                                                                                                 12-29-2017

MY KNOWING

We are all here to live every situation you can imagine, good or bad; right or wrong; positive or negative. Why? So we can learn from the experience as part of the adventure of life.  Murray Kibblewhite

CASE STUDY –HOW TO RECOGNIZE SYNCHRONICITY SUBJECT: RELATIONSHIPS

One day earlier this month was an amazing day for me. I awoke to a beautiful fine warm (25C) day here in Auckland, New Zealand.

After hanging out my washing, I drove several kilometers to where I act as a consultant helping with the preparation of Business Plans for small start-ups.

At 10.30am I met the first client, a solo mother wanting to set up a make-up and waxing business from her home. She had been ill recently and had a number of family issues to deal with, which to me appeared to stem from her feelings of unworthiness.

At 11.30 am the next client arrived. She was a very experienced and busy person using a “phantom (artificial) mare to collect seamen from horses for artificial insemination! I’m glad I’m not a stallion!

At 12.30 pm I met for the second time, the client I outlined in post 081. She is also a solo mother and she had brought her daughter of 12 years, who was tall enough to be taken as being several years older.

The preparation of her Business Plan was on track and it outlined how she was going to re-educate, re-train and restore minimum hygiene standards in schools, community groups and aged care centres. She had the passion of a Crusader.

Once the interview was finished I had a break before meeting the next client, so the three of us had lunch at a Sushi Bar. This is where she told me she was a Lay Preacher and some of the successes she had had through helping others accept Jesus the Christ into their lives.

I learnt the difference between Christianity and the Christian Religion and I also learnt we had very similar beliefs as regards Spirituality. Several times she said, ‘every experience a person has is a learning experience’. To me it was as if I was talking to myself in front of a mirror!

This was synchronicity at work!

We agreed to meet after I had finished with the last client for the day. Later, outside I met with her and she said she had been “told” to give me a blessing which she did while the three of us stood on the footpath beside a school playground!

For me it was an unreal but amazing experience! It was moving, powerful and transformational. Tears welled up in my eyes as she gripped my hands and spoke so forcibly and eloquently. She is a natural preacher and I felt enlightened.

Is this how God works?

Learning

So what was the learning?

I learnt to be open, aware and mindful of her and everything she said as I recognised this was synchronicity at work.

Maybe this the start of a Spiritual Relationship?

All life’s experiences are opportunities to learn. The challenge is to decide, what is the real lesson to be learnt?

How to use:-

1) Accept you need to change your Attitude and Actions on a daily basis.

2) Read, view, discuss and learn other ways. Set time aside daily to study.

3) Practice a new action until it becomes a better habit. Then tell your friends.

Check out these links:-

To the blog:  –https://projectlel.wordpress.com/

SYNCHRONICITY – www.youtube.com/watch?v=DhLMi152USU

CHRISTIANITYwww.youtube.com/watch?v=cot5v_qY8Ow

 

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080                                                                                                                  12-27-2017

MY KNOWING

We are all here to live every situation you can imagine, good or bad; right or wrong; positive or negative. Why? So we can learn from the experience as part of the adventure of life.  Murray Kibblewhite

CASE STUDY –HOW TO CLEAR YOUR C.R.A.P.? SUBJECT: Beliefs

As discussed in posts 076 and 079, we all have “enduring vulnerabilities”  from which we have developed “control dramas” So how do we eliminate or clear our “Controlling Responses And Processes” (C.R.A.P.)

In his book, “The Celestine Prophecy”, James Redfield says, on page 127:-

“Each of us go back into our past, back into our early family life, and see how this habit was formed.

Further down he says: –

Each person must reinterpret his family experience from an evolutionary point of view, from a spiritual point of view, and discover who he really is. Once we do that, our control drama falls away and our real lives take-off.”

Redfield then explains the four control dramas on page 128 & 129:-

Interrogator – they ask questions of another with specific purpose of finding something wrong.

Intimidator – they create fear in you by threatening you either physically or verbally.

Poor Me – everything they say or do puts you in a place where you have to defend against the idea that you’re not doing enough for them.

Aloof –they attract your energy by remaining distant so you have to give them extra attention.

There are other ways of clearing your “control dramas”. For example the Church of Scientology has a proven and effective system using “auditing” and “the purification programme” using exercise and spas to sweat out toxins.

Learning

So what is the learning?

Once you understand your own: control drama” we are free to continue with it or consciously cease using it.

If we let it go then, as Redfield says on page 131,

… We can find a higher meaning for our lives, a spiritual reason we were born to our particular families. We can begin to get clear about who we really are.”

All life’s experiences are opportunities to learn. The challenge is to decide, what is the real lesson to be learnt?

How to use:-

1) Accept you need to change your Attitude and Actions on a daily basis.

2) Read, view, discuss and learn other ways. Set time aside daily to study.

3) Practice a new action until it becomes a better habit. Then tell your friends.

Check out these links:-

To the blog:  –https://projectlel.wordpress.com/

CLEAR CONTROL DRAMAS -https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=R3oU5uPn8B4

 

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079                                                                                                                     12-15-2017

MY KNOWING

We are all here to live every situation you can imagine, good or bad; right or wrong; positive or negative. Why? So we can learn from the experience as part of the adventure of life.  Murray Kibblewhite

CASE STUDY –CONTROL DRAMA OR ENDURING VULNERABILITY SUBJECT: Beliefs

In “The Celestine Prophecy” by James Redfield, he says on page 121:-

“The Fifth (Insight) shows us that an alternative source exists, but we can’t really stay connected with this source until we come to grips with the particular method that, we, as individuals, use in our controlling, and stop doing it-because whenever we fall back into this habit, we get disconnected from the source.”

Further on he continues: –

“… and we do that by seeing that our particular style of controlling others is one we learned in childhood to get attention, to get the energy moving our way, and we’re stuck there. This style is something we repeat over and over again. I call it our unconscious control drama.”

As discussed in post 076, disruptive childhood experiences can have a major and long term impact on any person. Called ‘Enduring Vulnerabilities’, these highly emotional situations, such as the death of a loved one, a divorce or bullying at school, can and usually have a traumatic  impact.

So when you link these two concepts together, they can be displayed as: –

 

Traumatic

Experience

 

Steal energy                                                                                                                          Enduring

 from others                                                                                                                 Vulnerabilities

 

 Control

 Drama

 

So, until we find a way to gain energy directly from the Universe, we will continue to use your ‘Control Drama’. However, unfortunately this practice leads to another ‘Traumatic Experience’, and so the cycle continues.

Learning

So what is the learning?

We all must learn to understand our “Enduring Vulnerabilities’ and ‘Control Dramas’, so we know how we act under stress.

Then we have to learn to rise above these limitations

All life’s experiences are opportunities to learn. The challenge is to decide, what is the real lesson to be learnt?

How to use:-

1) Accept you need to change your Attitude and Actions on a daily basis.

2) Read, view, discuss and learn other ways. Set time aside daily to study.

3) Practice a new action until it becomes a better habit. Then tell your friends.

Check out these links:-

To the blog:  –https://projectlel.wordpress.com/

CONTROL DRAMAShttps://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FueIV9RZg-8

 

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078                                                                                                                 12-11-2017

MY KNOWING

We are all here to live every situation you can imagine, good or bad; right or wrong; positive or negative. Why? So we can learn from the experience as part of the adventure of life.  Murray Kibblewhite

CASE STUDY – HOW IMPORTANT ARE COINCIDENCES? SUBJECT: Beliefs

I have started re-reading, for the 5th time “The Celestine Prophecy” by James Redfield. It was very interesting as I saw things differently to what I had the previous time.

On page 6 it says:-

‘’Okay,” I said, ‘What is this experience we are looking for? What is the First Insight?’

She hesitated, as though unsure how to begin.

‘This is hard to explain,’ she said. ’But the priest put it this way. He said the First insight occurs when we become conscious of the coincidences in our lives.’”

Some might call it ‘synchronicity’ and the level of people experiencing this is increasing rapidly.

Then on page 8 it said:-

“’The Manuscript predicts,’ she went on, ’that once we reach this critical mass, the entire culture will begin to take these coincidental experiences seriously.’”

The other day, Tony, a business associate, mentioned he had a contact with the Salvation Army; I was keen to meet so he gave me the address. I approached them but it was not suitable. However, they advised contacting another branch.

Eventually I connected with the branch and made an appointment. The person I met was the right person and he said he would recommend my new idea to their committee.

You may say that was just luck!

But I have learnt that every person and event is in your life for a purpose, so I expect coincidence’s to happen and I always follow them up.

Learning

So what is the learning?

Learn to recognise coincidences and synchronicities and act on them.

All life’s experiences are opportunities to learn. The challenge is to decide, what is the real lesson to be learnt?

How to use:-

1) Accept you need to change your Attitude and Actions on a daily basis.

2) Read, view, discuss and learn other ways. Set time aside daily to study.

3) Practice a new action until it becomes a better habit. Then tell your friends.

Check out these links:-

To the blog:  –https://projectlel.wordpress.com/

COINCIDENCES & SYNCHRONICITIEShttps://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hQHHvhRdW9w

 

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077                                                                                                                        12-07-2017

MY KNOWING

We are all here to live every situation you can imagine, good or bad; right or wrong; positive or negative. Why? So we can learn from the experience as part of the adventure of life.  Murray Kibblewhite

CASE STUDY – WHY SEX IS LIKE UPGRADING YOUR HOME SUBJECT: Relationships

An article headed, “Here I am again writing about that subject sex” in New Zealand Herald dated 6 November 2017 by Deborah Hill Cone. Her observation was:-

“Instead of thinking of relationships like a businessman doing a deal, I hope in future generations we will think of relationships, particularly with our kids, more as a creative collaboration.”

As an analogy, if you compare that in a relationship, sex is often the driving force at the start, but the demand diminishes over time and other elements of the relationship then hold it together.

So how is this like upgrading your home?

It is another form of a creative collaboration where the initial effort of deciding to upgrade your home, choosing the design .agreeing to the alterations to arrive at the picture in your mind of the finished project is, like sex, an exciting activity you and your partner are working on together.

But, the excitement diminishes after the event has been completed and as the elements of daily living take over.

So to rekindle the excitement, another project has to be started or another event planned.

Learning

So what is the learning?

Treat your relationships as Debora Hill Cone says:-

“… The relationship as an artwork that you and the other person are making together …”

Further on in her article she says: –

“Art collaboration is a messy risky process but you try to say yes to whatever comes up. You move apart and come together again.”

Relationships need to be worked on to satisfy both parties.

All life’s experiences are opportunities to learn. The challenge is to decide, what is the real lesson to be learnt?

How to use:-

1) Accept you need to change your Attitude and Actions on a daily basis.

2) Read, view, discuss and learn other ways. Set time aside daily to study.

3) Practice a new action until it becomes a better habit. Then tell your friends.

Check out these links:-

To the blog:  –https://projectlel.wordpress.com/

CREATIVE COLLABORATIONShttps://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-8_osSQetGY

CREATIVE HOME UPGRADEShttps://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Z5i1tAJ7pZc

 

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075                                                                                                                 11-25-2017

MY KNOWING

We are all here to live every situation you can imagine, good or bad; right or wrong; positive or negative. Why? So we can learn from the experience as part of the adventure of life.  Murray Kibblewhite

CASE STUDY – WHAT CAUSES PROBLEMS IN YOUR HEALTH? SUBJECT: Health

The other day I spoke with two people who were either sick or looking after someone who was ill. And these two cases make me think of a third example.

Why were these people sick?

The first person is an older lady who is unable to walk easily and recently experienced severe pain from having kidney stones. What could have caused her to have kidney stones?

So I checked in my health bible, “You Can Heal Your Life” by Louise Hay. On page 187 she says the probable cause is – “Lumps of undissolved anger.”

That reason was justified because this lady was a perfectionist with strong opinions and she was angry because of restrictions caused by her health issues.

The second person was man in his 50’s who rang to tell me he could not attend a meeting that day because he had a dreadful cough, with sneezing and all the symptoms of a severe cold. It was unfortunate so we agreed to meet again when he felt better. Could there have been something that caused him to be like he was?

So again I checked the book to see what Louise said. On page 165 she says the probable cause is – “To much going on at once mental confusion, disorder. Small hurts.”

That explanation was justified, in his case, as I knew he had a lot on his plate.

Both these situations reminded me of one of my ex-partners who over the 20 years I knew her she had two knee replacement operations, shingles and now has Parkinson’s disease. What could have caused her to suffer this way?

So, for a final time, I checked to see what Louise Hay said about Parkinson’s disease. On page 197 she said the probable cause is – “Fear and an intense desire to control everything and everyone.’

Once again the explanation was accurate and pertained to the person.

However, understanding the cause is one thing, having the strength to make the necessary changes, is quite another mater!

Learning

So what is the learning?

To me if each of these people had investigated the possible cause of their health problem they could receive a guide or indication of the reason for their distress.

And to me, knowing what was the possible cause means they could learn to make the appropriate changes in their life.

Yes I know it is easy to say but hard to do. But if you can find out the root cause you have the opportunity to change.

All life’s experiences are opportunities to learn. The challenge is to decide, what is the real lesson to be learnt?

How to use:-

1) Accept you need to change your Attitude and Actions on a daily basis.

2) Read, view, discuss and learn other ways. Set time aside daily to study.

3) Practice a new action until it becomes a better habit. Then tell your friends.

Check out these links:-

To the blog:  –https://projectlel.wordpress.com/

CAUSES OF HEALTH PROBLEMShttps://www.youtube.com/watch?v=R0SFdmJrdOI

LOUISE HAYhttps://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8rO-TLDyg8o

 

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