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044                                                                                                            21 June 2017

MY KNOWING

We are all here to live every situation you can imagine, good or bad; right or wrong; positive or negative. Why? So we can learn from the experience as part of the adventure of life.  Murray Kibblewhite

CASE STUDY – THERE ARE NO COINCIDENCES

In the “10th Insight” by James Redfield and Carol Adrienne in the last chapter, “Holding the Vision” page 324 they quote Elizabeth Jenkins who said:-

“This is how I receive messages and keep going forward,” said Jenkins. “I was following the symbols that had the energy for me. That led me to the next point in my story. I then knew what I had to do. I was able to go to the next people I had to meet. The literal meaning of something doesn’t matter as much as seeing the signs and symbols as messages. You flow with the energy pattern. The form is unimportant and shouldn’t take precedence over the energy flow.”

Recently I experienced this situation for myself when I interviewed eight clients over two successive days, who I was to help them prepare their Business Plans.

At this stage of my business life, I could feel important changes were likely to happen so I was mentally prepared for an increase in business activity. The issue for me was my ability to handle the extra workload.

For years I had always had a Personal Assistant to help me and now I sensed I would need help again.

Therefore, with this mindset, I was very interested when one of my new clients had been the PA for the CEO of a major Local Government organisation and had left to start up her own business offering mobile beauty services.

Could she also offer mobile Secretarial Services as well?

Today we met for the second time over a coffee and she said, ‘Yes I can help you!”

Is this coincidence or like attracted like?

Learnings

My learning was to flow with the energy pattern and be ready for opportunities that arose.

Likewise, her learning was to be aware of opportunities as they appeared and take them rather than investigate, be critical of and dismiss the event.

All life’s experiences are opportunities to learn. The challenge is to decide, what are the real lessons to be learnt?

 

 

Now I Know

 

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042                                                                                                                      11 June 2017

MY KNOWING

We are all here to live every situation you can imagine, good or bad; right or wrong; positive or negative. Why? So we can learn from the experience as part of the adventure of life.  Murray Kibblewhite

CASE STUDY – HOW YOGA HELPED ME?

This morning I left at 9.00am so I could arrive on time at the home of my new instructor. I was going to my second Yoga Class after being infatuated with the first class the previous weekend. There I was one of about 50 in a large hall. Now I was to be in a small class of 6 held in the instructor’s home.

After driving for 20 minutes, I arrived at her home in the Western Suburbs. I arrived before her so after she arrived I re-parked my vehicle I went upstairs where she had a wonderful view over the Manukau Harbour in Auckland, New Zealand.

Then she advised me the class had been cancelled because she was not feeling well and coughing As well, her young son had had a bout of asthma. But she invited me to stay for a short time.

So I took out of my shoulder bag a copy of the book “The Body is the Barometer of the Soul” written by Annette Noontil and checked what was said about coughing.

The explanation for experiencing coughing was “You want to get rid of the emotions of not being your own master.” Hearing this explanation she said that after her meeting with me she was going to a supervised meeting with her ex-partner to discuss access to their two children.

It seemed there were several issues to be resolved which had been causing her concern.  I advised her to practise her yoga and meditation so as to keep calm and centred.

So I left after doing the calming rather than being calm! Next week the roles will be reversed and she will become the teacher.

Learnings

Not all good intentions can succeed. Sometimes external factors intervene and upset or delay the way forward.

For me, the experience was to be flexible and adaptable.

For her, the learning was not to allow herself to become anxious and worried and live in the present and trust in God.

Once again the learning is patience, perseverance and awareness.

All life’s experiences are opportunities to learn. The challenge is to decide, what are the real lessons to be learnt?

 

Now I Know

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040                                                                                                                       02 June 2017

 MY KNOWING

We are all here to live every situation you can imagine, good or bad; right or wrong; positive or negative. Why? So we can learn from the experience as part of the adventure of life.  Murray Kibblewhite

CASE STUDY – WHY CHALLENGE THE SYSTEM?

Today I was handed written evaluations of three Business Plans I had helped prepare. All three applicants had prepared substantial plans but were not approved for grants from the NZ Government

I read through the three evaluations and the overall impression was, that while a considerable amount of work had gone into each plan, all over 60 pages in length, the Vetter had been extremely critical. However, the Vetter’s evaluation was acted on by two Government employees with little business experience. It seemed these two people with the authority to approve, were not prepared to approve the grants as they were scared of making a mistake. In other words, the applicant was “guilty until proven innocent?”

Where was the recognition of the applicant for the training, experience and considerable work put into preparing the Business Plan? What can we do?

My recommendation to my employer was for them to employ an independent assessor to review the three Business Plans and the three separate evaluations to see if they agreed or disagreed with the declinatures. These independent findings would then be presented to the NZ Government seeking a review of the applications.

Yesterday I received another letter from a different NZ Government Department regarding a complaint I had lodged some months ago on behalf of a friend. He was suffering as he had lost the sight in his Right eye three years previously due to a botched cataract operation. That was not all, as he suffered intense pain and headaches from the injections in his Left eye where he had AMD (Aging Macular Degeneration).These factors had increased his stress levels so he now had shingles as well! It seemed he is allergic to the injections.

The pathway for his complaint against the local Health Board is likely to be tortuous and complex. The established system for making complaints did not include a one-on-one interview which is what my friend wanted so as to clarify any possible miss-understandings in the vast amount of written material we had submitted with our complaint.

My friend, at this time, chose not to employ an independent specialist at his own cost and will wait the findings of the independent investigator provided by the Government Department. So what to do?

Learnings

In both the above cases of complaint there are complex systems to follow, which are probably designed to dissuade the complainant continuing.

However, in both cases the learning is the same – accept your Destiny, stand up for your Rights and like when dealing with a “bully”- Challenge him!

All life’s experiences are opportunities to learn. The challenge is to decide, what are the real lessons to be learnt?

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039                                                                                                              28 May 2017

MY KNOWING

We are all here to live every situation you can imagine, good or bad; right or wrong; positive or negative. Why? So we can learn from the experience as part of the adventure of life.  Murray Kibblewhite

 

CASE STUDY – WHAT IS A SPIRITUAL PARTNERSHIP?

Recently I reviewed my feelings towards my business partner after the event I wrote about in the post 037.

First, why did she reject my complement? She said my comment was ‘sexist”? I discussed the situation with a friend who was from the same culture as my business partner and he said it reflected her upbringing. In his eyes, she had learnt to be suspicious of compliments as they may have led to her being abused!

The second aspect was my feeling of rejection! But on further reflection, I realised her pointed rejection related to my “complement”, not our business association.

Yes, you will be saying – don’t confuse relationships – it is business and other relationships should not be allowed in!

My reply is, maybe! Because if feelings are not returned how can a person continue the association? It’s one-sided and difficult for the “pinning party”. Ha. Ha. Ha.

How can a person deal with unreturned feelings and still have a normal business relationship?Talking with my guides they suggested going up to my next level and offer a “Spiritual Partnership”!

Gary Zukav in his book, “The Seat of the Soul” describes “Spiritual Partnership” extensively on page 162 and includes, “Spiritual partners recognise the existence of the soul, and consciously seek to further its evolution.” And further on, “They consciously co-create their experiences with each other, with an alive Earth that loves Life very much, and with a compassionate Universe.”

Therefore, with considerable self-discipline, I am learning to love not only my business partner and all other persons, in fact, everything, without the condition of receiving the same love in return.Not easy when you have just watched a Hollywood movie where the main characters live happily ever after!

But I’m trying.

Learnings

Where a feeling is not reciprocated then I have had to learn to accept the situation and also learn to give “unconditional spiritual love” in the form of a “Spiritual Partnership”.

All life’s experiences are opportunities to learn. The challenge is to decide, what are the real lessons to be learnt?

 

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041                                                                                                                22 May 2017

MY KNOWING

We are all here to live every situation you can imagine, good or bad; right or wrong; positive or negative. Why? So we can learn from the experience as part of the adventure of life.  Murray Kibblewhite

CASE STUDY – HOW TO GET HELP?

Recently I had a meeting with a client regarding her proposed new business options. They were limited. While she was very experienced in investigating and applying for consents and rights for property development, subdivisions and building construction both in China and New Zealand, her skills did not lend themselves for her to easily become self-employed.

So at our last meeting, she arrived with two business girlfriends. One was working with her father in her family business supplying steel pipes to the construction industry.

The other friend was a successful real estate salesperson working with Auckland’s largest Real Estate agency. The Real Estate market at this time was booming so she looked and acted in a very confident manner.

My client was Chinese, a solo mother with few assets as she had lost rights through her divorce, and was now experiencing a difficult time financially. The big question – how could she set herself up in her own business? Or, the other big questions was, what does she want to do, write it down so she could visualise the steps and successful outcome!

Maybe there was a glimmer of hope as she was to meet her ex-boss who was visiting from China to see his daughter who was studying in New Zealand. Could he employ my client to find, organise and manage investments in New Zealand for him?

Could she find others who would like to employ her on a contract basis to assist with administration work in the property and construction industry? What about working with her girlfriend in the steel tubing business?

As well, I recommended her to visit a specialist employment advisor who could help her apply for part-time or contract positions in Auckland.

So the options had increased for her and now she had to follow up all her contacts and opportunities and be mindful of all possibilities that came before her.

Learnings

Sometimes the way forward is blocked and a person needs to stop struggling, re–assess their situation, pivot and move in new direction.

The learning is patience, detachment, re-evaluation and then take a new pathway.

All life’s experiences are opportunities to learn. The challenge is to decide, what are the real lessons to be learnt?

Link to the blog:

https://wordpress.com/post/projectlel.wordpress.com/4198

 

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MY KNOWING

We are all here to live every situation you can imagine, good or bad; right or wrong; positive or negative. Why? So we can learn from the experience as part of the adventure of life.  Murray Kibblewhite

CASE STUDY – HOW TO UNDERSTAND WHY YOUR LIFE IS AS IT IS!

Several days ago I interviewed three clients all of whom were seeking to set up their own business.

The first was a young man from Iraq. In his own country, he qualified as a doctor and practised as an anaesthetist in a major hospital in Bagdad.Unable to practice his profession in New Zealand, without additional qualifications, he was forced to consider self- employment.

He decided to set up a takeaway operation in the Eastern suburbs of Auckland. He will specialise in offering European and Mediterranean foods and will aim at preparing special recipes to attract the young and adventurous.

The second was a tall Polynesian man who proposed to offer “handyman” services, particularly to the building and construction industry. But recently he had a major operation for a heart valve replacement which limited his ability to undertake physical work.

After considerable discussion, it was decided that as he had good contacts in the building and construction industry in Auckland he should become a Labour Hire Operator. This meant that his challenge was to find, train and place suitable staff on the many building sites in and around the city. He had to be the ultimate organiser.

The third was a young entrepreneurial Maori man who had come to Auckland with his wife and children from his family farm near the top of the North Island of New Zealand.

After discussion, he saw potential in developing the resources of his families land. This included the sale of spring water, renting land to grow manuka bushes for bees to gather nectar to make honey and the provision of attractions for overseas tourists.

Each one had recently experienced dramatic changes in their lives. And I explained that from my view-point, they had had an option or choice, and they had chosen the “path less travelled” which while very demanding was also an opportunity to learn, expand and grow.

Learnings

In each case, the men had chosen a different path to what they had been travelling. It was a major decision for each of them and an opportunity to learn courage, patience and perseverance.

All life’s experiences are opportunities to learn. The challenge is to decide, what are the real lessons to be learnt?

Link to the blog:

https://projectlel.wordpress.com/2016/12/04/3313/

 

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036                                                                                                              30 April 2017

MY KNOWING

We are all here to live every situation you can imagine, good or bad; right or wrong; positive or negative. Why? So we can learn from the experience as part of the adventure of life.  Murray Kibblewhite

CASE STUDY – HOW TO LEARN FROM OTHERS – AS THEY MIRROR YOU!

Deepak Chopra in his book, “Ageless Body Timeless Mind” page 282 says

“…….. when you see yourself in terms of timeless, deathless Being every cell awakens to a new existence. True immortality can be experienced here and now, in the living body. It comes about when you draw the infusion of Being into everything you think and do.”

While Chopra explains this possibility in more depth there is, in my opinion, a link between his statement and accepting that everything is a learning experience.

Therefore, a change of thinking from accepting the Duality (everything is either right or wrong, good or bad, positive or negative)to the event is a learning experience, then you can draw in the information of Being and become at one with God.

For example, one of my female clients who is starting a new business asked me to give her some feedback on her personality. So I drafted out a table with five factors of which I assessed two at 100% and three at only 50% each.

Then I explained briefly the reason for the 50% grades, and finally, knowing her personal circumstances, I gave five options for handling her situation.

Her response was to say that she was offended because it included a “sexist” statement!

She did not give any response to the grading given or the reasons for the gradings. She only commented on two of the five options.

From my point of view, I felt an “infusion of Being” preparing the report that was to help this person.

Unfortunately, she only saw where her pain came from and could not accept the other aspects of the assessment.

Learnings

So I learnt that you attract to yourself what you need to know. And, as a mirror of myself, I had to review the experience and realise I was not seeing my own self fully and therefore I was putting restrictions on myself.

In her case, her background, especially at a young age, showed she experienced family difficulties that still had to be cleared, as she can only see her pain.

All life’s experiences are opportunities to learn. The challenge is to decide, what are the real lessons to be learnt?

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036                                                                                                              26 April 2017

MY KNOWING

We are all here to live every situation you can imagine, good or bad; right or wrong; positive or negative. Why? So we can learn from the experience as part of the adventure of life.  Murray Kibblewhite

CASE STUDY – HOW TO ENJOY THREE INSPIRATIONS

A close friend sent me an e-mail suggesting I check out the writings of Alain de Botton.

What an inspiration unfolded as I read about his philosophy made available through the world-wide branches of his “School of Life”.

His book, “The Pleasures and Sorrows of Work” has been summarised correctly as “amounts to a celebration and investigation of an activity as central to a good life as love – but which we often find remarkably hard to reflect on properly.  As de Botton points out, most of us are still working at jobs chosen for us by our sixteen-year-old selves. Here is the perfect guide to the vicious anxieties and enticing hopes thrown up by our journey through the working world”

Then another colleague introduced me to Frederick Bailes, a fellow Kiwi who lived in New Zealand from 1898 – 1952. He too was an inspiring writer with a sound philosophy.

Later in his life he entered medical school at a large hospital in London. Here he observed the mental factors which entered into the recovery of patients as certain thought patterns produced similar body reactions.

Like later exponents of his thinking, Annette Noontil and Louise Hay, Bailes discovered that a person who can change their thinking can lead to remarkable healings.

Finally, by chance I decided to view the Zeitgeist movies – “The Movie”, “Addendum” and “Moving Forward”.

Based around philosophies of “The Zeitgeist Movement” and the beliefs of the “Venus Project” the three movies outline the false assumptions of our present civilization and offered a new model to follow.

To receive these three inspirations in a short space of time was remarkable as it was exciting. It was like getting on a high but without the after-effects of taking drugs.

A beautifu,l beautiful experience!

Learnings

These three new ways of viewing life indicates the need for all of us to learn to become more flexible and adaptable to the great ideals and philosophies as we live on Earth.

All life’s experiences are opportunities to learn. The challenge is to decide, what are the real lessons to be learnt?